As I have stated in an earlier blog, I have a knack for taking other people’s opinions to heart. In fact, and I’m sure I’m not alone, I even make up opinions that I assume the other person has. Now, I wouldn’t say that I have low self esteem, but I definitely feel really down during breakout weeks and I’d say that that’s really what’s inspiring this post.
Why do we care so much what other people think about us? Why is it so important? We are on a tiny little planet in an infinite universe and we are worrying about little things like acne or hairstyles. It’s ridiculous!
I’m going to credit a large portion of this opinion addiction to social media. Now more than ever people are able to make their opinions known or tell the world what they are doing and get feedback from everyone that follows me or is friends with them. I’m definitely guilty of feeling really proud of myself when people positively affirm me over Twitter or Facebook and I’m pretty sure that’s natural but it’s so important to not base your actions or feelings on what these people are saying. More than once I have considered completely removing myself from social media but then I’d just be disconnected and wouldn’t really gain anything from that.
So how do we relieve ourselves of this stress without living in a cave? How do we avoid caring too much about opinions? Truth be told, I don’t think there is a way to do it completely. We are slaves to this corrupt society that cares more about what someone looks or acts like than unconditional love. I think that the best thing to do is start with yourself. If you stop making judgements (we all do it!) then that’s one less negative opinion for the world to worry about.
I also have to add that opinions obviously aren’t all bad! It’s important to at least acknowledge them but if they are derogatory then don’t let them get to you!
In the words of Xavier Rudd, “What other people think of you is none of your business.”